Noises are being made about discharging mom. She will be going to a local skilled nursing/rehab facility for the short term. Several days ago, the social services provider presented me with a list of local facilities and their ratings, and I picked the two with the highest ratings for them to try first. Then social services has to see if either of them can take her (do they have room?), whether they will take her based on her health status and care needs, and whether they will play nice with mom’s insurance. The facility she’s going to was not one of those two, but it’s social services’ job to come up with the best fit they can.
My and my brother’s overriding concern must be to see that she goes to a place where people are taking good care of her and are keeping her safe, both in the short term, and in the long term. If trained medical professionals whose job it is to realistically assess mom’s physical limitations and determine if her house is safe for her to live in (and they can get the medical equipment she would need in through the front door!) make that determination, and can provide people who can keep her safe in that environment 24/7, then I’m sure my brother and I could agree to it.
But, sometimes real life is hard. Sometimes what somebody wants, and what somebody needs don’t always match up. Like my brother says, we need to let the social services people do their job.